How to help your Wife have orgasm

Female Orgasm.These days most women want orgasms. That wasn’t always the case. A couple of generations or so ago, many adult females simply didn’t have climaxes – and a lot of them weren’t bothered about it. Probably a lot of them didn’t actually know what an orgasm was.READ MORE HERE

Common Sexual Problems in Marriage

Lack of sex is the number one complaint we hear about married sex. Pornography, masturbation, infidelity, and sexual fantasies are other common sexual problems in marriages. Separating facts from myths when it comes to these issues is the first step in solving these sexual problems. The second step is talking with one another about these issues.

Foster Romance

Let your spouse know of your love and caring not only through your words but through your actions, too.

Love and Sex in Marriage

Sex can keep your marriage strong and lack of sex can destroy your marriage. When there are sexual problems in your marriage, there is quite possible that the two of you will separate within 12 months. Two ways to keep your sex life active is to make time for one another and to talk with each other.
By Sheri & Bob Stritof, About.com Guides

Effects of Sexual Addiction

There is a line between being enjoying sex, its peripheral pleasures and sexual addiction. In sexual addiction long periods of time are given over to sex-related activities. Sex addicts feel unable to control sexual behavior or even reduce its incidence. People with sexual addiction behavior often use sex as an escape from other problems such as anxiety, stress, depression and social isolation.

Sex Boosts Self-Esteem

 Boosting self-esteem was one of 237 reasons people have sex, collected by University of Texas researchers and published in the Archives of Sexual Behavior.

That finding makes sense to Gina Ogden, PhD, a sex therapist and marriage and family therapist in Cambridge, Mass., although she finds that those who already have self-esteem say they sometimes have sex to feel even better. "One of the reasons people say they have sex is to feel good about themselves," she tells WebMD. "Great sex begins with self-esteem, and it raises it. If the sex is loving, connected, and what you want, it raises it.

Sex Burns Calories

Thirty minutes of sex burns 85 calories or more. It may not sound like much, but it adds up: 42 half-hour sessions will burn 3,570 calories, more than enough to lose a pound. Doubling up, you could drop that pound in 21 hour-long sessions.

"Sex is a great mode of exercise," says Patti Britton, PhD, a Los Angeles sexologist and president of the American Association of Sexuality Educators and Therapists. It takes work, from both a physical and psychological perspective, to do it well, she says.

Sex Boosts Immunity

Good sexual health may mean better physical health. Having sex once or twice a week has been linked with higher levels of an antibody, which can protect you from getting colds and other infections.

Sex Relieves Stress

A big health benefit of sex is lower blood pressure and overall stress reduction, according to researchers from Scotland who reported their findings in the journal Biological Psychology. They studied 24 women and 22 men who kept records of their sexual activity. Then the researchers subjected them to stressful situations -- such as speaking in public and doing verbal arithmetic -- and noted their blood pressure response to stress.

Those who had intercourse had better responses to stress than those who engaged in other sexual behaviors or abstained.

Another study published in the same journal found that frequent intercourse was associated with lower diastolic blood pressure in cohabiting participants. Yet other research found a link between partner hugs and lower blood pressure in women

Sex and Health

When you're in the mood, it's a sure bet that the last thing on your mind is boosting your immune system or maintaining a healthy weight. Yet good sex offers those health benefits and more.

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In The Bedroom with Dr. Laura Berman

Are you ready to live your best sex life? Put the passion back in your relationship with this five-step action plan and sexual assessments from renowned sex therapist Dr. Laura Berman.

Step 1: Tell the Truth
Step 2: Ask for What You Want Foreplay Map
Step 3: Let Go of Negative Messages
Step 4: See a Doctor
Step 5: Make Sex a Priority

Tell the Truth About Your Sex Life

More than 70 percent of women have faked orgasms on a regular basis, if not once or twice. But if you're looking for a more satisfying sex life, Dr. Laura Berman says it's time to start telling the truth—and stop "mercy faking."

It's time for you and your partner to see how your sex life rates. Quiz yourself and use these self-assessments to get started.

If your needs aren't being met between the sheets, it's time to have a conversation. Feel like you're not fluent in the language of sex? Use this Foreplay Map to start the discussion.

Did you grow up thinking that sex was vulgar or "not something nice girls did"? Those negative messages you received as a child could be affecting your sex life today. Learn how to replace them with positive messages and reclaim your sex life.

1. Start a Sex Journal
Growing up, you may have received some negative messages about sex along the way. Now is the time to move beyond those old beliefs and embrace the fact that you are a grown woman who doesn't have to carry the beliefs of those who raised you.

Start by writing down the negative messages you received growing up or the messages you picked up from your parents' relationships. When you are ready to let them go, you can cross them out, rip out the page—anything that will symbolize letting go to you.

Then, take a moment to document the situations where these moments came up in your life. This way, you'll become more conscious of when old messages surface.

When those messages do pop in your head, it's important to replace them with positive thoughts. So go ahead and create a new sexual mantra! Here are a few to get you started:

• This is good.
• I am entitled to sexual pleasure.
• I am a sensual, sexual woman.
• I'm allowed to feel this.
• This is good for my body.
• This is good for my soul.
• This is good for my relationship.
• I am entitled to a healthy, happy sex life.
• I deserve pleasure, and receiving pleasure is a loving act.
• I am sexy and beautiful.
• A good sex life is good for me and good for my body.
• Sex is about expressing my love and connection to the person I love.
• Loving myself and touching myself is good and healthy for me.
• I embrace my body and my sexuality.
• Experiencing pleasure is an important part of my quality of life.
• By loving myself I am better able to love my partner.
• Receiving pleasure is as important as giving pleasure.
• Loving my sexuality is loving myself,
• Sex is the most sacred gift I can share with myself and someone I love.
• I am a sensual, loving woman who can experience deep pleasure.
• I open myself to pleasure.
• I am safe and in control. It's OK to let go.

2. Become More Comfortable with Your SexualityGo ahead and say it, "I am a vixen!" Whether it's taking a pole dancing class or just dancing at home by yourself, find activities that make you feel sexy and playful.

3. Try Something New
Whether it's a new position or a sex toy, try mixing things up a bit. Sex toys can also help you achieve orgasm if you're having trouble. Not sure which product is right for you? Take the quiz!

You can keep a private sex journal on Oprah.com. Start a private blog.

Tell the Truth About Your Sex Life

More than 70 percent of women have faked orgasms on a regular basis, if not once or twice. But if you're looking for a more satisfying sex life, Dr. Laura Berman says it's time to start telling the truth—Read more: http://www.oprah.com/relationships/Tell-the-Truth-Dr-Bermans-Best-Life-Sex-Tip#ixzz1TiGQkSlW

Seek to Improve Your Sex Lives

 Therapy that focuses only on the mind may fall short; rather, it should seek to educate one about their bodies, how sex may be modified to be more pleasurable or how certain medical conditions or prescription medications can interfere with sexual response. As one seek to improve the sex lives, try to pay attention to the multi-faceted ways that the body and mind play together.

Learning To Relax During Sex

 Learning to relax during sex, or by learning to better communicate with ones partner so that there is no feel of pressure  or inadequate during sex raise a big question about sex: how much of sex can we attribute to the body? How much to the mind?

Don't Judge Your Sex Drive

Comparing ourselves to others and concluding that we come up short may be the most common way humans create their own unhappiness. With sex (as with the rest of life) do your best to sidestep comparisons, or, more realistically, to strip them of their emotional power.

It's true that people differ widely in the ease and intensity of their sexual experience, just as they differ in their capacity to enjoy conversation, music, friendship, or gardening. But so what?